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for better . . .

from the book:

In 1993, a group of German neuroscientists are believed to have been among the first to scan the brain to see what it looked like in various emotional states, including passionate love.  In the brain scanner, the scientists concluded, the patterns of romantic love look like “mental chaos.”

. . . Anyone who has ever loved doesn’t need an Arabic lesson to understand that all love is not the same.  The love we feel for our children is different from what we share with our friends, lovers, or spouses.  And even within a romantic relationship, we experience varying degrees of life, and even the type of love we feel can change over time.

. . . California State University sociologist Terry Hatkoff has identified six basic styles of love.  They are:

  • Romantic – marked by passion and sexual attraction
  • Best Friends – feelings of deep affection and caring
  • Logical – when practical issues like money, religion, and values influence feelings
  • Playful – the excitement of flirtatious and challenging interaction
  • Possessive – marked by feelings of jealousy and obsession
  • Unselfish – marked by nurturing, kindness, and sacrifice

. . . Getting divorced is listed as worse even than going to jail.  Here are the top ten most stressful life events.

  1. Death of a spouse
  2. Divorce
  3. Marital separation
  4. Going to jail
  5. Death of a close family member
  6. Personal injury or illness
  7. Marriage
  8. Getting fired
  9. Reconciling with a spouse
  10. Retirement