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a wish

I would love to live
like a river flows,
carried by the surprise
of its own unfolding.
– John O’Donohue

The other side of sadness

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The Other Side of Sadness by George A. Bonanno, according to Daniel Gilbert, Professor of Psychology, Harvard University is ‘a game changer.  Bonanno carefully assembles evidence to show that most of what we thought we knew is just plain wrong.  If you want to know the truth about the human experience of loss, there’s only one book on the shelf.’

We have all experienced loss at one time or another.

A. Sachs writes that death is more universal than life; everyone dies but not everyone lives.

An excerpt from the book in a section titled Laughing in the Face of Death:

Probably the biggest insight into emotion and bereavement comes from positive emotions.  There is something counterintuitive about putting positive emotion and grief in the same sentence.  Historically, positive emotions received almost no attention in the bereavement literature and when they were mentioned it was almost always in the context of denial.  It was assumed that a joyous emotion during grieving could only interfere with or suppress the normal process of working through the loss.  As it turns out, this more folk wisdom than science.  Positive emotions do more than simply indicate that we are feeling good, and they occur in almost every kind of situation, even in situations as difficult as bereavement.

Author Bonanno quotes some lines in Joan Dideon’s character in the stage play which was adapted from her memoir The year of Magical Thinking:

The show opens with Didion’s character standing alone and withered before her audience, a harbinger of grief to come.  She quietly gives her audience the sobering information:  Her husband died on December 30, 2003.  “That may seem a while ago, but it won’t when it happens to you.”  Then, the clincher, “and it will happen to you.  The details will be different, but it will happen to you.  That’s what I am here to tell you.”

Death is part of life.

“We cope well with loss because we are equipped–wired, if you will–with a set of in-born psychological processes that help us do the job.  The most obvious of these is our ability to feel and express sadness.  When we feel sad, we are more likely to turn our attention inward, to reflect, take stock, and recalibrate to the reality of the loss.  When we express sadness, we tell others that we are in pain, that our minds are elsewhere, and that we are likely to need their care and sympathy, especially during the early days and weeks of bereavement.

“All emotions, including sadness, are designed to be short-term solutions.  If we remain in a constant state of sadness or feel sad for too long a time, we run the risk of ruminating and withdrawing from the world around us.  If we express too much sadness, we begin to alienate the very people whose help and support we most need.

“Fortunately, nature has provided a built-in solution.  Rather than staying sad for long periods of time, our experience of the emotion comes and goes.  It oscillates.  Over time the cycle widens, and gradually we return to a state of equilibrium.”

The last paragraph in Bonanno’s book is an observation from a woman (Karen Everly) about her feelings years after the death of her daughter.

It’s a bit like a fading light.  It grows dim but it never goes out, never, not completely anyway.  I find that enormously reassuring.  I used to worry that someday the light would disappear–that I would forget, and then I would really have lost Claire.  I know, now, that doesn’t happen.  It can’t.  There is always a little flicker there.  It is a bit like the small glowing embers you see after a fire dies down.  I carry that around with me, that little ember, and if I need to, if I want to have Claire next to me, I blow on it, ever so gently, and it glows bright again.


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Whimsey is not afraid to be outrageous but she is basically shy.

“God’s paintbrush at work . . .”

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“God’s paintbrush at work . . .”

A message – and snapshots from a friend . . .

“Thought you might like to see what it looks like around the Seguin/New Braunfels area. The bluebonnets were fantastic this year due to all the rain we have had.  There was a bunch of friends from Killeen that rode their Harleys down this weekend and we rode all day Saturday and Sunday, all over the hill country and it was like this for just about the entire 300+ miles that we rode. God’s paint brush at work. ”

thought for today

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my prayer

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There are several blogs I visit (almost daily) and one of them is “Holy Ordinary” – a blog which always inspires and uplifts me.  My Troth ancestors were of the Quaker persuasion and Bill Brent’s blog especially appeals to me.

And Quaker Richard Foster’s writings speak to my heart.  [Heard Foster a few years ago in San Antonio at a two-day seminar and he speaks as well as he writes.]

I’m borrowing some thoughts from Brent Bill’s Quaker Thoughts on Life:

…, oh, how sweet and pleasant it is to the truly spiritual eye to see the several sorts of believers, several forms of Christians in the school of Christ, every one learning their own lesson, performing their own peculiar service, and knowing, owning, and loving one another in their several places and different performances to their Master, to whom they are to give an account, and not to quarrel with one another about their different practices. For this is the true ground of love and unity, not that such a man walks and does just as I do, but because I feel the same Spirit and life in him, and that he walks in his rank, in his own order, in his proper way and place of subjection to that: and this is far more pleasing to me than if he walked just in that track wherein I walk.

~ Isaac Pennington, 1659

music of possibility – sound of potential

little nuggets from little books


Christmas 2008 - from a Seguin friend


The essence of true friendship is to make allowances for another’s little lapses – David Storey

Friendships aren’t perfect, and yet they are very precious – Letty Cottin Pogrebin

Be kind.  Remember that everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. – Harry Thompson



Deep down, inside our bodies, lives the soul.


Inside the soul, right in the very middle of it, there’s a bird standing on one foot.  This is the soul bird.  It feels everything we feel.

By now you’ve understood that everyone is different because there’s a different soul bird deep inside.

That’s why it’s a good idea – maybe late at night when everything is quiet–to listen to the soul bird deep down inside us.


We are committing an unspeakable crime against ourselves when we drown ourselves in negative thinking.

If we are not willing to be patient with people and stick with them until they’re free to share their inner struggle with us, we can at least not add to their burden by judging them.

When we love, what hurts another hurts us; what brings them sorrow brings us tears.


Prayer does something in us.

Prayer does something for us.

Prayer does something through us.


There is hope for us,

even in our sin and failure,

as long as we are haunted by goodness.

Life is neither good nor bad; it includes both.


My only sketch, profile, of Heaven is a large blue sky . . .

larger than the biggest I have seen in June–

and in it are my friends–every one of them. – Emily Dickinson


Oh, the inexpressible comfort

of feeling safe with a person; having neither

to weigh thoughts nor measure words,

but to pour them all out, just as they are,

chaff and grain together,

knowing that a faithful hand will take

and sift them, keep what is worth keeping,

and then, with the breath of kindness,

blow the rest away. – George Eliot


gift from Colorado friends

from Colorado friends



We have become so heavenly minded that we are no earthly good.


The Motah Movement!

Veteran TV Anchor Leaves Award-Winning Career to Launch

International Children’s Movement

After 12 years of the same old negative news stories, award-winning, former FOX news anchor Cynthia Lee recently left television news to pursue her new venture, Motah, which is her slang for the word “motivate,”in hopes of inspiring a movement. [February 2009]

April 10, 2009 article in the San Antonio Business Journal, by Andi Rodriguez:

This week, after 11 years, FOX/KABB-TV’s Cynthia Lee bids adieu to the anchor desk and blazes a trail in a new direction. The award-winning Lee is launching her own show titled “Motah’d Kids.” Slang for “motivate,” “Motah” is actually a multi-tiered effort consisting of a television pilot, Web site, blog and on-line magazine demonstrating how “ordinary kids do extraordinary things.”

“We’re focusing on a younger demo,” Lee says. “Motah is actually an entire movement, designed to bring more positive, real kid achievements to television and the Internet. It’s gratifying to tell a story, knowing that it might inspire and motivate someone else.”

Lee is genuine in her gratitude for the opportunity she received at FOX. She chose not to renew her contract, with the support of management.

“This is a dream I’ve had for quite a while and I needed to focus,” Lee says. “I know this is where I’m meant to be, using my talents to help people, especially kids.”